Since my portfolio is 95% finished now, I need to start looking for jobs, a full time and a part time, a part time job that I can do before I found a full time job. Therefore I started to draft my resume and a cover letter. After I made a very simple copy of my resume I saw J4 online. J4 and I are not closed at all but since he seems to know lots about interviewing so I thought it would be a good idea to show him my resume, which soon I regarded. When he looked at it, he immediately said "well, I see typo” then he just kept counting, and I was like "Shit!". I was so embarrassed. I even have 3 typos in a single sentence. The worst thing is he wasn’t saying in a nice way. I admit that I am really bad in spelling, however, it really was just a draft and I made it in a program that don't have the spell check function. I would never send it to any companies without having someone to check it. However, he just kept attacking me with the typo thing and told me how unprofessional to have so much typo in the resume. I felt totally humiliated by his words. Then he continued to criticize my other problems in my portfolio, not in a harsh but almost abusive way. He made me feel like as if I worth nothing. At that moment, I realized that he wasn't really trying to help. Instead, he was just having a good time from abusing me with my non-professional resume. The interesting part is he suddenly talked about what kind of resume he is looking for when he is looking for a graphic designer for his future web site and he indirectly suggested that he wouldn't consider my resume when he sees it. WTF? Okay, I think its okay to criticize my resume and tell me the do and don't, but when did he come the boss and get to decide if I should get hired or not??? This is just absurd. Moreover, I think some of the things he told me I should do with my resume are quite doubtful, yet, I can’t deny that he did give some constructive advises. After the whole frustrating conversations, the thing that annoys me the most is myself. I can’t believe I actually care the abusive comment that much that I even lost my appetite. I should know that in my future interviews, I am going to encounter countless of people just like him, who likes to step on people just for their amusement, so I should have known how to deal with it. Therefore, this incident teaches me two important things:
- Only show your resume draft to someone you can fully trust. Because a resume is a professional statement of yourself, you don’t want anyone you can’t fully trust to have your incomplete/un-finalized/unprofessional copy of your professional statement.
- Thicken your skin. Try your best to withstand any criticisms from others, even the one that is in bad intentions. Because when they attack, they still need a point. Therefore it’s extremely important to be calm, think through what they’ve said and take only the constructive criticisms, then ignore the rest.
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